Charlotte Morabito “As Ireland goes #hometovoteto #RepealThe8thtoday, please remember Savita Halappanavar who died of sepsis after being denied an abortion for a pregnancy even after doctors said miscarriage was inevitable. Her death was a catalyst for this referendum. She was 31.
Le Sommeil [The Sleepers], which depicts two women entwined in a post-coital embrace, caused a stir when it was first shown in the 1870s. The police were called in, and the painting was not shown again until the 1980s. But its brief showing had an influence on a number of contemporary artists, and helped challenge the taboos associated with lesbian relationships. For modern audiences it’s a good reminder that people in the 19th century were not ignorant of lesbian relationships, as we tend to believe. And it’s pretty damn sexy, don’t you think?
When folks talk about privilege, they don’t mean your life is
perfect. They don’t mean you’ve had everything handed to you on a silver
platter. They don’t mean you haven’t faced challenges, or that you
didn’t have to work damn hard for what you have.
They mean you have certain systemic advantages over more marginalized groups.
It’s not an all-or-nothing thing, either. A white woman in America has
certain advantages over those who aren’t white; she also faces systemic,
institutional sexism.
When you try to claim there’s no such thing as privilege, you’re saying
there are no systemic or cultural inequalities. That every group is
treated fairly and equally in our society. If you believe that, you
might as well stop reading, because you’re too disconnected from reality
to have any sort of conversation about this stuff.
I’ve got
advantages I didn’t earn, and I didn’t ask for. That doesn’t make me an
awful person. It doesn’t make me a bad guy. It’s what happens when
you’re born a straight white male in this country during this time
period.
Pointing out that I have privilege is like pointing out I have brown hair. It’s not a judgement. It’s an observation of fact.
So maybe could we try to stop the knee-jerk defensiveness? The
automatic, “Once a black person said they were sick of white tears and
that’s racist so how dare you call me privileged when I’m a victim of
racism too” nonsense? Or “I’m poor and also white therefore white people
aren’t privileged!” (See paragraph three, above.)
The word
“privilege” isn’t an attack on you as an individual. It doesn’t mean you
should be ashamed to be male or white or straight or whatever. It’s an
acknowledgement that society isn’t equal. Just like some people are
unfairly hurt by those inequities, other people are unfairly protected
and advantaged.
All right, rant over. Having gotten that frustration out of my system, I’m gonna get back to work on this book.